This week, we have a guest blogger, Elizabeth Eilers Sullivan. Elizabeth is a writer and mother of three young children. She recently attended a SourcePoint Therapy Module One workshop in Santa Fe and shared some of her experiences following the workshop with me. I wanted to share them here because of their specific reference to using SourcePoint with children, and in parenting, but also because she is talking about ways in which the SourcePoint principles can be integrated into one’s life. Thanks, Elizabeth!
I received a call from a friend today who said, “I don’t know about you, but it’s been crazy around here.” She sounded tired and spent. I recognized the emotion and the tone. That used to be me more than I care to recall. Later that afternoon, I found myself at the Santa Fe Children’s Museum. Surrounded by tons of kids, keeping an eye on my three, I noticed that I was doing the Diamond Points of SourcePoint Therapy to ground myself and feel secure in the chaos.
As I sat on the steps watching each of my kids engage in a different activity I contemplated how much sense SourcePoint makes to a mom: what mom doesn’t desire order? What mom doesn’t crave balance? What mom doesn’t hope for harmony? And what mom does not enjoy a day that flows? When I do these four points I notice my body relax, my mind calm, and a presence of energy to deal with whatever situation is at hand. Sometimes I imagine my home has a navel and I cast the four points around my home while I clean, trying to bring order. Or while I hope that my boys continue to cultivate a harmonious nature with one another, especially on the days or moments when harmony between them feels far. Other times I look at our family life to see how we can instill more balance, and when energy gets stuck, more flow.
Donna Thomson poses this question in one of her SourcePoint blogs, “What does the situation at hand need now, more order, balance, harmony, or flow?” This question continues to help me as I grow as a mother. As I continue to grow as a human””holding the points aids me into a calmer reality.
I have also taught the points to my boys, and they use the points when they need to feel more contained. Frequently, they ask me to hold the four Diamond Points at bed and then their navel point. On my five year-old, Finn, this puts him to sleep in no time. However with our three year-old, Liam, I noticed that when I do his navel point he gets giddy and more excited, so instead of the navel point at bedtime, I hold his sacral point and this is grounding for him, aiding him into a relaxed state. Our fifteen month old, Kieran, loves the navel point and often goes from a crying baby, whose diaper is hard to change, to a laughing babe who will readily cooperate in a diaper change.
Sometimes I will hear Finn say, “Order, balance, harmony, and flow” to himself as he is doing something and see him put his hand out to hold his points. On the cusp of kindergarten, I have begun to talk to him about being able to just say the words to himself and imagine the gold points as he connects to the blueprint of health and information. For him going from the concrete to the imaginative does not take much but some supportive explanation. I want him to be able to hold his points as he ventures more and more out into the world of school and intentionally chosen activities where he might feel a need for comfort or support.
A pitfall to all of this is that I may be eager to hold their points when they are in distress before they are ready to let go of the intense emotion they are feeling. This is counterproductive and also out of sync with the intent of SourcePoint. I caught myself asking Finn and Liam while they were crying if they wanted me to hold their points, or if they wanted to, and they replied with disdain, “No!” I thought how inconsiderate of me to try to move them through this experience to peace sooner than they were ready because that is what I craved.
When my husband, Peter, recently left for a business trip, I held our youngest in our arms as we waved goodbye to his car pulling away. I felt sad and Kieran was crying for Peter reaching out after him. I automatically did the points for myself, and noticed something amazing: that it had a calming affect not only on me, but on my baby. I created a field of health, information and support that enwrapped both of us. This makes me realize the impact it can have on a situation with my children. By holding the points for myself, this can help shift the energetic field in a room without imposing or trying to control it. It invokes and invites order, balance, harmony, and flow. By teaching this to my children it provides them with self-healing resources they can tap into, and creates an awareness of their own energy levels. By continuing to use this energy medicine we tap into the web of life; as Donna Thomson says, “What we do to ourselves we do to the web of life.”
For those of you who have not attended a SourcePoint Therapy training, listening to the SourcePoint Audio Meditation is a good introduction to the practices Elizabeth is referring to.